Marie Buda

Discovering the River Towards Inner Freedom

  • About
  • Research
  • Performance
  • Contact
  • 日本語

Archives for May 2017

“I Do Not Need You To Protect Me” – A Sequel to the Love Letter

May 20, 2017 by lyra777 Leave a Comment

To my dearest beloved

I wanted you to know

That I do not need you

To protect me

/

I do not need you

To protect me from your sadness

Because your grief lets me know

 You’re a beautiful human too

/

I do not need you

To protect me from your turmoil

As a woman, turmoil is something that I AM

So let me embrace it all

/

I do not need you

To protect me from your anger

It’s only a burst of energy

I’ll help you scream it out

/

I do not need you

To protect me from your fear

Because seeing you be present with it

Actually gives me strength

/

I do not need you

To protect me from your vulnerability

You are never weak in my eyes

You are the strongest man to me

/

I do not need you

To protect me from your mortality

Because our love surpasses time and space

Our connection lasts eternity

/

So let me not need your protection

As it will set you free

You may be surprised at the results

If you just let emotions be

 

Afterword

This is a sequel to a poem I wrote on Valentine’s Day called “I Don’t Need You”.

Men have so much pressure to be “strong”.  When boys are taught to “man-up”, “not be a sissy” or “not be a girl”, this can have seriously damaging effects on their emotional well-being. The biggest shame is that vulnerability is man’s greatest strength.

A lot of men feel emotions just as strongly as women do. Yet they feel like they shouldn’t have them, let alone express them. There are also men who pressure themselves to be the “tough” one in the relationship, to be the protector of the two. This may lead them to hide their emotions from their partners because they feel they must shield them from pain. This can make them hold in much anguish. The emotions are there, and they need to be let out. I tried to convey in my letter that my loved ones’ vulnerability only serves to make us both become stronger, deepening our love.

Filed Under: Acceptance, Emotion, Fear, Love, Relationships

About Me

Hi there! I'm Marie. I'm a behavioural science consultant with a PhD in cognitive neuroscience. I explore what sets us free and brings us peace. A millennial-in-awakening. Read More…

Subscribe to Marie’s blog

Categories

  • Acceptance
  • Awakening
  • Being Present
  • Cognitive Neuroscience
  • Creativity
  • Depression
  • Emotion
  • Empathy
  • Fear
  • Hate
  • Japan
  • Life
  • Loneliness
  • Love
  • Mastery
  • Optimism
  • Peace
  • Perfectionism
  • Popular Posts
  • Relationships
  • Self Discovery
  • Social Media
  • Surrender
  • Uncategorized

Archives

  • April 2019
  • April 2018
  • February 2018
  • August 2017
  • July 2017
  • May 2017
  • February 2017
  • January 2017
  • November 2016
  • October 2016
  • September 2016
  • August 2016
  • July 2016
  • September 2014
  • April 2014

Copyright © 2023 · Lifestyle Pro Theme on Genesis Framework · WordPress · Log in

 

Loading Comments...